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Domestic violence is defined as controlling, coercive, threatening behaviour or violence or abuse between people aged 16 or over who are or have been intimate partners or family members, regardless of gender or sexuality. It includes psychological, physical, financial, sexual, emotional abuse and stalking. Forced marriage is also domestic abuse. The internet and social media can be used in domestic abuse which can include cyberbullying, posting revenge porn and online stalking. Domestic abuse can also include forced marriage, female genital mutilation, so-called ‘honour’ based abuse ‘ and abuse of elderly family members.
It’s not always obvious to acknowledge or see domestic abuse when it’s happening, but if somebody in your family uses bullying or violence to get another adult to do what they want, this can be domestic violence. And although, a higher percentage of domestic abuse is carried out by men against women, men also suffer abuse by women, whilst it can also be common in same-sex relationships.
It can include:
- Physical violence, which could involve hitting, kicking, punching, pushing, hair-pulling.
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- Threats that could include threats to hurt you or another person in your family, or a pet. You may also be threatened with having money taken away for food or bills or your keys to the home or a car, restricting and controlling your quality and freedom in your life
- Sexual violence may be used to do something sexual when you don’t want to, or you may be made to watch sexual material on the internet or television.
- Controlling someone’s finances can mean you are not allowed to spend your own money. If you are financially dependent on another person, they may not give you money for basic things such as food, or basic essentials, such as nappies for babies.
- Controlling someone’s life means stopping someone from going to work or school.
- Cultural or ‘honour’ violence can include being hurt or abused as a punishment for something that’s not seen as culturally acceptable by your community or family. It can include being forced to marry someone.
Impact on children
Children are individuals and may respond to witnessing abuse in different ways, their responses to the trauma of witnessing domestic abuse may vary according to a multitude of factors including, but not limited to, age, race, sex and stage of development.
It is equally important to remember that these responses may also be caused by something other than witnessing domestic abuse. Some of the effects below are described in a briefing by the Royal College of Psychiatrists (2004):
- They may have a lowered sense of self-worth
- They may complain of physical symptoms such as tummy aches and may start to wet their bed
- They may become anxious or depressed
- They may have difficulty sleeping
- They have nightmares or flashbacks
- They can be easily startled
- They may have temper tantrums and problems with school
- They may behave as though they are much younger than they are
- They may become aggressive or they may internalise their distress and withdraw from other people
- Older children may begin to play truant, start to use alcohol or drugs, begin to self-harm by taking overdoses or cutting themselves or have an eating disorder
Feeling angry, guilty, insecure, alone, frightened, powerless or confused are also common emotions. They may feel uncertain and unsure towards both the abuser and the non-abusing parent.
If your safety is at risk, do not hesitate to call 999. If you feel it is a non-emergency you can still log incidents that have happened, by calling 101.
Most kinds of domestic violence are criminal offences. Remember that you have options and you are not alone, the Staffordshire Victim Gateway and Restorative Justice works in partnership with specialist Domestic Abuse services throughout Staffordshire.
If you would like our support, please see our details below:
Staffordshire Victims Gateway
For advice and support call us on:
Tel: 0330 0881 339 or email: email@example.com
Local And National Helplines:
New Era provides free and confidential round-the-clock advice and support for anyone in Staffordshire and Stoke-on-Trent affected by domestic abuse – regardless of their age, ethnicity, gender or location. The 24-hour confidential helpline for victims is: 0300 303 3778 and there’s a live chat facility via www.new-era.uk
The confidential helpline for perpetrators is: 01785 601690.
New Era is co-funded by the Staffordshire Commissioner, Staffordshire County Council and Stoke-on-Trent City Council. The service – for victims, perpetrators, as well as their families – is delivered by Victim Support and Reducing Reoffending Partnership (RRP) through a team of specialist advisors, focusing on prevention and early intervention.
GLOW (part of Honeycomb Group)
Offer a variety of support for people who have been victims of abuse
Helpline open 9am – 5pm, Monday to Friday.
North Staffordshire: 0330 0945 559
Derby: 0133 2985 111
Pathways (South Staffordshire Area)
Staffordshire Women’s Aid
Advice for women. Refuge provides safe, emergency accommodation through a network of refuges throughout the UK.
Helpline: 0808 200 0247 (Available 24 hours)
National Telephone Helplines:
The Helpline is staffed 24 hours a day by fully trained female helpline support workers and volunteers.
Crime Prevention Information
It may be useful to you to have some advice on crime prevention to see what you can do to protect yourself in the future. You can find lots of useful information on local crime prevention by clicking here: https://www.staffordshire.police.uk/crimeprevention
For more help and support on any of the above, please contact Staffordshire Victim Gateway.
7 in 10 people who use our Victim Gateway service are happy with the outcome.