Bullying

The NSPCC defines bullying as behaviour that hurts someone else – such as name calling, hitting, pushing, spreading rumours, threatening or undermining someone. Bullying is usually repeated  and can hurt both physically and emotionally.

Bullying that happens online, using social networks, games and mobile phones, is often called cyber-bullying. If the bullying is motivated by hostility on grounds of disability / mental health; race, ethnicity or nationality; religion or belief; sexual orientation or transgender identity; age; or gender, this may be seen as a hate crime.

 

How to deal with bullying at school

If you’re being bullied at school, tell someone you can trust, a friend, a teacher and tell your parents. This can be difficult, so if you don’t feel you can do it in person it might be easier to write a note to your parents explaining how you feel, or perhaps confide in someone outside your immediate family, like a grandparent, aunt, uncle or cousin and ask them to help you tell your parents what’s going on. 

If you have a teacher you can trust, confide in them. You could ask a friend to come with you so you don’t feel alone. If you don’t feel you can do that, then speak to the school nurse or the pastoral team. Don’t be tempted to respond to any bullying or hit back because you could get hurt or get into trouble.

Bullying includes:

  • people calling you names
  • making things up to get you into trouble
  • hitting, pinching, biting, pushing and shoving
  • taking things away from you
  • damaging your belongings
  • stealing your money
  • taking your friends away from you or leaving you out
  • posting insulting messages or rumours, in person online
  • threats and intimidation
  • making silent or abusive phone calls

If you’re being bullying out of school hours, this can be really distressing.  

Bullying outside school is any incident of bullying that occurs anywhere off the school premises. Headteachers have the legal power to discipline their pupils for bullying incidents that occur outside of schools premises, as described above. The headteacher is only permitted to discipline the pupil to a reasonable extent, in line with the school’s discipline policy. For more information,

 (Source: BullyingUK)

  

Cyberbullying

Cyberbullying is bullying Online. Unlike Bullying that happens in the real world, such as in school or with friends, cyber bullying can follow you wherever you go, especially if you’re on social networks, playing on game consoles  or your mobile phone. 

Cyberbullying can include:

  •  Excluding you from friendship groups
  • Sending you threatening and abusive text messages or images
  • Sharing and creating embarrassing images or videos of you
  • Pressurising you into sending sexual images or encouraging you to engage in sexual conversations

 

 For more information, click on the link  https://www.nspcc.org.uk/what-is-child-abuse/types-of-abuse/bullying-and-cyberbullying/

If you are being bullied, and you don’t have anyone you can turn to, you can contact us on 0330 0881 339. This number will take you through to our Telephone triage team, where we will listen and talk you through support that is available to you.  Alternatively, you can contact us via email on help@staffsvictimgateway.org.uk, or click on the Contact Victim Gateway Link. Please remember, you are not alone; there are local and national services who can help you. For more Useful Links, see below.

  

Useful Links:  

The Staffordshire Victim Gateway & Restorative Justice Service 

NSPCC –  https://www.nspcc.org.uk/what-is-child-abuse/types-of-abuse/bullying-and-cyberbullying/

Childline – https://www.childline.org.uk/info-advice/bullying-abuse-safety/types-bullying/bullying-cyberbullying/

Bullying UK – https://www.bullying.co.uk/

Staffordshire Police – https://www.staffordshire.police.uk/police-forces/staffordshire-police/areas/staffordshire-police/campaigns/2019/cyber-bullying/